Long-married couples name this before love

At a housewarming for a couple married thirty-eight years, a younger neighbor asked how they did it. The wife answered first: "We like different things — he hikes, I swim. But we spend money the same way, treat parents the same way, treat strangers the same way." Her husband added, "If we hadn't figured that out early, we'd hate each other by now." Sharing a taste is charming. Sharing a hierarchy of what matters is what lasts.