Live their life, and no one plays you

She went to the university her parents wanted, married the person they approved of, took the job that reassured them. It wasn't a bad life. But on her fiftieth birthday she looked in the mirror and thought, Who is this? The most common regret Bronnie Ware recorded — from thirty-one years at the bedsides of the dying — was not having the courage to live a life true to yourself rather than the one others expected. Hand the lead role to someone else and the life that ends isn't yours.